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This week, Jill explores what it really means to be yoked with Jesus and comforted by His words and presence. Comfort doesn't mean what it used to mean!

This was also the first week we were legally allowed to worship together in the church building. As a dry run, Adrian led the Zoom service from the church, which worked successfully. So, next week, you have a choice to join us in person or remotely at 10am on Sunday 12th July.

This week, 2rd Sunday of Trinity, Peter guides us through a couple of interesting passages, and explores what it means for the individual to be in a process of sanctification, according to Paul's teaching in Romans 6.

This week Derrick explores what it means for us that Jesus sent out his 12 disciples to speak and act for him to bring the kingdom and love of God to their neighbours.

Hethel Church opened a Meditative Churchyard Trail in its conservation churchyard in May this year.    Somewhere to wander and ponder peacefully.  Six “stations” each bearing a reflective poem, prayer or hymn versse have been placed along a path cut through the churchyard meadow.  Each station also has some wildlife photos for a children’s trail.

We are delighted that it has already been appreciated by a number of adults and families who have contacted us by email, by NextDoor and over the hedge to say thank you! Here are some of the comments:

"Thank you for the lovely meditative stations in Hethel Churchyard:  beautifully presented, thoughtful words; glorious nature;   very accessible and unthreatening.  Blessings to you and many thanks."

"I visited yesterday afternoon and it is beautiful!  I loved the contemplative stations around the churchyard, and the benches where one can sit, ponder and take in the beauty shortly before leaving.  Thank you."

"Thank you so much.  I hope to visit...this church is, I believe, known for its care and respect for the environment.  Thank you."

"I must say the boards that are placed in the churchyard are beautiful and in their content, really thought provoking and the churchyard itself is stunning with plants and birds.  Thank you."
 
“… we are also are grateful for your lovely idea of the Meditative Churchyard trail, every time we have been we have seen others (at a suitable distance!) using it. We look forward to the June update. “

A refreshed trail, with new prayers, poems and hymn verses together with a new Explorers’ Bingo (sheets available in the church porch) for children is in place for the month of June.  The orchids are up too!

Do come and enjoy!  Peace be with you.

Sam explores what it means to be in relationship with a God who is three in one.  Thought provoking and practical teaching and worship this morning.

This morning, on this great Christian festival, celebrating the giving of the Holy Spirit to people who need Him (which is everyone!), we explored what that first day of Pentecost and the birth of the church means to us. How the Holy Spirit is working in our lives, and what it looks like in practice, as we hear stories from different people's lived experiences.

Jesus looked up and prayed. The disciples looked up in wonder as Jesus ascended. Today, we explored what it means for us to look up during this special season of global prayer.

This Sunday, Peter shares with us insights on Paul's engagement with the city of Athens, and the journey of the discples from the last week of Christ's life through to their receiving of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost, just over seven weeks later.

Today's Sunday service in the Mulbarton Group of Churches, we marked the occasion of 75 years of peace in Europe, and explored the Easter reading, where Jesus called his followers to do works like his, in greater number. People share stories of untold heroes, and we consider together the works that we are doing or could do to live like Jesus and to love like Jesus.

Encouraging news from some members of Mulbarton congregation, inspiring sung worship and prayers, that help us lift our eyes and take heart in a God who cares - and Derrick shares some insights with us from today's Old Testament lectionary reading - the minor prophet Zephaniah. We find a vision cast of life beyond the exile or lockdown - to see a brighter horizon.

Recording was a bit late starting, so we come in at the start of the Bible reading, and sadly the recording doesn't include the encouraging stories from those who worship with us, who are on the frontlines of helping the homeless, and providing education and essential shopping services. We did record the piece from the nursing sector though.

Adrian unpacks the lectionary reading from John 20:19-31, which talks about how the Lord appeared to the disciples, reassured them with his peace, above all things, sent them to be present in a needy world, and gave them reassurance that the faith which motivates us is true and solid.

We are making use of Zoom technology to continue to meet remotely.  Please do join us at any of the following regular meetings, through this season, using the links and codes below...

You can also join in with Morning Prayer 9:15am-9:45am Monday to Friday:
https://zoom.us/j/878150264
Meeting ID: 878 150 264

And for Sunday worship:
https://zoom.us/j/993672961
Meeting ID: 993 672 961

You can also join any of these meetings by using your phone, without any need for a computer, tablet or smartphone:

Meeting ID: 236 542 856 (Tuesday Lent Course)
Meeting ID: 878 150 264 (Morning Prayer)
Meeting ID: 993 672 961 (Sunday Worship)

Great to worship the living God together this morning.  As well as receiving bread and wine on behalkf of the scattered congregations, Adrian shares a message of encouragement, drawing lessons from that first resurrection Sunday that are pertinent to the current coronavirus pandemic.

You can catch up with the traditional communion service here:

Or the more contemporary communion service here:

Adrian leads us through a series of reflections on the 12 stations of the cross, charting Jesus' journey from Gethsemane to the tomb on Easter Sunday morning. There are songs, reflections on Jesus' journey, times of silence, short readings from the Bible and prayers.

God bless you as you make this journey along with us.

You can catch up with Thursday evening's Communion service here.  We paused at 8pm to go outside and clap for the NHS.  Unfortunately, I forgot to resume to recording until after I had received the bread and wine.  Lovely to share the evening with folk though, and I do hope this is a blessing to you.

Please schedule 50 minutes to access this video at some point during Holy Week this year, as you slow down to be with Jesus, in all that He has done for us.

The word "tenebrae" comes from the Latin meaning "darkness" or "shadows". The Tenebrae is an ancient Christian Holy Week service that makes use of gradually diminishing light through the extinguishing of candles to symbolize the events of that week from the triumphant Palm Sunday entry through Jesus' burial.

This increasing darkness symbolizes the approaching darkness of Jesus' death and of hopelessness in the world without God. The service concludes in darkness, with a final candle, representing Christ, carried out of the church, symbolizing the death of Jesus.

It is a simple service, with 6 candles, 8 readings, some music and some silence. A loud noise may also sound symbolizing the closing of Jesus' tomb. The worshipers then leave in silence to ponder the events of Holy Week, the impact of Christ's death and the expectation of the coming Resurrection.

We finished our "Paraclesis" course, with a 6th Sunday session, considering the theme of "Connecting", and looking at the story from the start of the Book of Acts, about the man born lame. Peter and John connected with him outside the Temple, and demonstrated how the works of Jesus in coming alongside others, continue through the people of God in today's world.

There was an issue with the Spotlight video remaining on Ian and Caroline for the service, after the reading, so please excuse their starring role in this video capture from Sunday morning!

This morning, we enjoyed fellowship via Zoom with 40 households who tuned in.  So good to see familiar faces, and to welcome some new faces!

We heard from our beloved mission partner, Ram, who is visiting UK from Nepal, and explored how God is able to give grace in the deep places of our lives, as we journey with other special people, and as they journey with us, to bring deep healing, freedom and strength for whatever life brings.

Thanks to Natalie Colline for this excellent guest blog...

One of the most challenging things about domestic violence is that rarely does the person who is being subjected to abuse realise that they are being abused.  A victim is one of those women, the shrivelled up ones who (according to most stock images) cowering in a corner with a bruised face.  And their partner isn’t one of those men.  He’s a good guy really.  He doesn’t mean it.  It’s only because of all the stress and he had a really bad childhood and he loves me and soon things will get back to how they used to be.  To take the step of acknowledging that our partner is abusive is a huge thing.  Once it’s not “me overreacting”, “his difficult childhood”, “the way I push him to the edge”, “how passionate he is”, “only that one time when he left me bruised”, once we label it ABUSE, everything changes.  Nothing can go on as normal.  We have to take action.  We have to accept that our relationship must end and that our children will lose their father and nothing will ever be the same again.  And that’s before we begin to reckon with all the ways his behaviour will escalate if we try to leave.  Around 80% of men who kill women, do so within eighteen months of her leaving him.

Men are more abusive over Christmas.  Often people think it’s because of the stress, the money worries and the increased alcohol consumption.  But that’s not why.  It’s because an abuser deliberately destroys whatever is precious to his partner and children.  He destroys birthday celebrations and anniversaries.  Some abusers destroy every family mealtime, leaving their children with eating disorders because their father (or step father) has thrown food, screamed at their mother, or gone into that silent sulk which they all know ends in him being violent.  The other reason abusers are worse at Christmas is because there is greater opportunity to abuse.  Most people get time off over Christmas, and the abuser will use those extra hours to demand he get whatever he wants.  And because it’s Christmas, his partner will acquiesce, because she wants to make it special for the kids; because where would she go on Christmas Day when he’s kicked the Christmas tree over?  On Christmas Eve he pushes her to do sexual stuff she doesn’t like, but he promises her that if she does what he wants, he’ll make Christmas nice.  So she does what he wants.  Then on Christmas Day she asks him to help with the dinner and he kicks off and blames her for ruining Christmas.  And she just wishes that she’d not asked for help, he was tired after all.

You may be wondering why I’m writing about Christmas when we’re dealing with a global pandemic…  It’s because this crisis, and the self-isolation and physical distancing caused by it, creates the similar context as living with an abuser at Christmas, but about a million times worse.

He’s now at home 24/7, not just for three days.  He uses his need to work from home to demand that everyone in the home stays silent all day.  If his partner can’t keep their three-year-old silent; he screams, punches walls or makes threats that she’s knows he’ll carry out later.  He’s always hated her speaking on the phone with her friends or family and normally she waits until he’s out of the house to call them, because he’ll tut or huff and puff throughout the phone call.  Now she can’t speak to her anyone.  And then he says he’s started with a temperature and they all need to stay in for fourteen days.  She hasn’t seen any evidence he’s got a temperature, but she daren’t question him as she knows he’ll hurt her, or worse, take out his outrage at her insolence on the kids.

And she can’t leave now.  He’s there all the time.  She’d thought about it before, was just waiting for the right time.  But now the kids are off school and don’t have any stability and so she can’t move into a refuge.  And anyway, she’ll be exposing her asthmatic seven-year-old to the virus.  She keeps trying to make everything nice for them all, exhausting herself to make things nice.  He always leads her to believe that she can “make” him nice, if she only plays by his rules.  But then he changes them, or the kids needs something that means she has to break them.  Her job say she can’t have time off as she’s a carer.  But she knows he won’t look after them properly.  He’ll undermine her and play fight with them until they cry and then when she gets home, he’ll keep her up until 4am in the morning interrogating her about which male co-workers she interacted with, accusing her of having an affair.  She says she can’t go into work and her line manager is horrified at her lack of commitment in this crisis and fires her right there and then.  She daren’t cry, because he’ll mock and deride her for it.  She dreads Sunday, when he’ll demand that she and the children participate in the online streamed church service that he’s been planning, the one that was so important all of them had to be silent for three days straight.  Afterwards, he whispers to her that he’s never punched her in the face because people might see it, but now things are different.  She’s his and he’ll do what he wants to her.

Specialist domestic abuse services are working around the clock to make their provision effective for women during this epidemic, but due to ideologically driven cuts, they’ve already been stripped back, defunded and de-specialised.  For each of us, there’s not a lot we can do to make a difference while also social distancing and self-isolating.  Abusers are making choices to isolate, control, abuse and harm their partners and children, and the only people who can stop abuse are those who choose to be abusive.  But it’s important that we understand what abuse is, what the dynamics are, and how this virus is going to hugely increase women’s vulnerability.  It’s crucial that we don’t perpetuate myths about abuse; it’s not the stress or financial difficulties caused by the virus that is increasing perpetration, it’s about increased opportunity.  Women who don’t leave abusers are not stupid or wrong; they are doing everything they can to keep themselves and their children safe.  Abusers deliberately act in ways that prevent their partner making sense of what is going on or being able to articulate it as abuse; so doing announcements about “if you’re being abused we can help you” is not really going to reach that many of the people who need support.

What can we do as we continue into this unknown place?

1. Contact your local domestic abuse and ask them how you can help; do they need financial support, donations, volunteers to drive/move/clean?
2. Educate yourself about domestic abuse (my book can help with that).
3. Be aware that if someone is being abused, their online interactions may be tracked.
4. Notice who isn’t able to engage with your community; who isn’t on Facebook/Twitter/Whatsapp, and see if there’s a way to check in with them some other way.
5. Facebook is particularly risky for those who have left an ex-partner, because it is very easy for him to find her. Ensure you have an additional option other than Facebook for engaging with those in your community.
6. If you hear violence or noise from a neighbour’s home, call the police (use 999 if you are concerned it is an emergency).
7. Be vigilant. Are there people in your family or friendship group, amongst your colleagues, church community or neighbourhood who are acting differently, whose communications have gone down dramatically or who seem withdrawn or different.  Try to make regular contact with them.
8. Be aware. When you do your shopping, are there women and children who seem overly subdued, or is there a man behaving in domineering ways (abusive men will be emboldened in a context where they have so much uninterrupted space to abuse, and this may be visible in the brief encounters we have with people).
9. Trust women. If someone tells you something that sounds abusive, if they talk about feeling suffocated by their partner, if they say they feel scared or need help to leave, believe them straight away.  Whatever they tell you will be the tip of a very horrific iceberg.

If you identify with the abusive behaviour detailed in this post, it may have shocked you to become aware that what is being done to you (or what you are doing to someone else) is abusive.

If you are recognising that what is being done to you is wrong and if it is safe to do so, here are some places that can help:

• You can find your local domestic abuse service here: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-abuse-directory/
• Women’s Aid Online Chat (10am – 12pm Mon – Fri): https://chat.womensaid.org.uk
• National Domestic Violence Helpline: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk (0808 2000 247)

If you are concerned about your behaviour towards a partner, you can contact the Respect perpetrator helpline: https://respectphoneline.org.uk (0808 802 4040).

Our first go at using Zoom for worship on a Sunday morning. A great way to come together without leaving our homes in coronavirus days of social distancing.

The theme was immensely fitting, as we considered the ways in which God enables and empowers us to make good life choices, even when times are hard.

God bless you as you watch. Stay safe and stay kind!